Are you dating a soldier who is deployed that you met online?
Does he have elaborate tales about the peacekeeping missions he’s been assigned to in foreign lands?
Has he mentioned that he’s trying to get approved for leave and plans to meet you in person when he does?
If you can answer yes to these questions, you may be dealing with a scammer and not a real soldier.
What Makes Me Qualified to Write About Military Romance Scams?
My name is Stacey and I am the founder of MarriedtotheArmy.com, a website for Army spouses and family members.
Many years ago, both women and men began reaching out to me in hopes that I could help them determine if the soldier they met online was actually a soldier.
They told me about great love stories and finally finding their Prince (or Princess) Charming.
In most cases, by the time they were contacting me, they were already head over heels in love with the pictures of the soldier and the flattery that flowed through each email or messaging communication from around the globe.
In the beginning, it was only a few people a month. That quickly turned into a few a week and, eventually, into multiple queries per day.
I wrote an article about how to spot the signs of a scammer who is only after one thing – your bank account. Even with the information in that article, people continued to reach out to me sure that they had found the exception.
In the last ten years, I’ve spoken with thousands of people who were involved with scammers.
I’ve heard the same stories over and over again. I’ve seen the fake documents, doctored military IDs, and the many, many ways the scammers asked for, and sometimes even demanded, money.
I’ve been there, if only through email, to witness as this person full of hope for a promised future learned that it was all a lie.
Why Am I Speaking Out About This Topic?
Sadly, even with the thousands who have reached out to me over the years, none were the exception.
They were all involved with scammers.
And quite a few had sent tens of thousands of dollars of their hard-earned money to a foreign land believing they were enabling the love of their life to return to the U.S. and live out their happily ever after fairytale.
What they were left with instead was a broken heart and an empty bank account.
I wanted to start this site to provide more detail about the scammers, the ploys they use to lure you in, and how you can avoid getting mixed up in these types of dating scams that only lead to heartache.
The only way we will be able to stop these military romance scams from happening is through education and dedication to the cause.
I hope you’ll join me in putting a stop to these scams that have devastated so many lives, both emotionally and financially.